The husband and I celebrated our 3rd wedding anniversary yesterday, it's not like we've been together for 3 decades, but somehow I've picked up life lessons from my own personal experience about being married.
1. Women need love whilst men, respect.
We see it all over the media, "All you ever need is love!" Agree! 100%. But a man actually feels love if you respect and honor them as the head of your house.
You see, as women, we love to control things. Most of us believe that we know better than our husbands. We rally against submission over a man's headship. But honestly, it takes a lot of strength and courage to die from one's own self and willingly choose to honor and trust your husband's decisions for the marriage/family.
Remember, even if the head is in charge of making the decision, it's the neck that turns the direction. ;)
You see, as women, we love to control things. Most of us believe that we know better than our husbands. We rally against submission over a man's headship. But honestly, it takes a lot of strength and courage to die from one's own self and willingly choose to honor and trust your husband's decisions for the marriage/family.
Remember, even if the head is in charge of making the decision, it's the neck that turns the direction. ;)
2. Don't use the same lips to build up and tear down.
In marriage, or even at life in general, everyone will encounter disagreements and misunderstandings. We are talking about two people with two different sets of values, opinions, and upbringing coming together to become one.
If you can, avoid using those lips to tear your man down. I'm not innocent to this either. Sometimes, I'll just walk away to stop the argument, allowing time for us to cool down. And not letting the sun go down on our anger.
It's really awkward to sleep side by side with someone you're not okay with. I don't know about you, but sleep is almost impossible.
But there are times when it's okay to agree to disagree. Would you rather value your feelings/opinion/pride more than the person you're committed to for the rest of your life?
That's the beauty of marriage, to lay down oneself and esteem your husband/wife more important than you are. That's strength, that's courage and that's noble.
If you can, avoid using those lips to tear your man down. I'm not innocent to this either. Sometimes, I'll just walk away to stop the argument, allowing time for us to cool down. And not letting the sun go down on our anger.
It's really awkward to sleep side by side with someone you're not okay with. I don't know about you, but sleep is almost impossible.
But there are times when it's okay to agree to disagree. Would you rather value your feelings/opinion/pride more than the person you're committed to for the rest of your life?
That's the beauty of marriage, to lay down oneself and esteem your husband/wife more important than you are. That's strength, that's courage and that's noble.
3. Take care of yourself, not just for you, but also for your spouse's sake.
Men are visual creatures. This shouldn't come as a shock to us women, after all, we also admire beauty. It doesn't have to be a size 2, but the fact that you took the effort to look good for your husband, not just for yourself, is something that your husband will greatly appreciate you for. Whether we like it or not, we represent our spouses too.
If you were given the chance to meet the president of the United States, what would you wear? The best clothes out there, of course.
Most of us will choose to bring our best foot forward because we value the person, we deem the person important. Why can't it be the same for our spouses? They are special, they are valuable and above all, we've chosen to be with them for the rest of our lives.
Most of us will choose to bring our best foot forward because we value the person, we deem the person important. Why can't it be the same for our spouses? They are special, they are valuable and above all, we've chosen to be with them for the rest of our lives.